Issues solved.
Confidential exploration
The more senior you get the more important to retain support and an honest sounding board. You have harder issues to solve with what feels like less cover. You feel you ought to ‘just know’ some of this stuff. Well, however clever and senior you are – you need backup. If only to be certain of your own mind …
Wood … Trees … Trees … Wood …
Many clients have told me that coaching has clarified what their issues are, their attitude to those issues, and next steps become clear. With less stress.
Yes! No! No! Yes!
Resolving conflicts at work or elsewhere is very powerful though coaching. Clients frequently know what they want to do or say but want to know how to have these difficult conversations in a good way. Coaching provides a safe space to look at what is going on in difficult, pressured interactions and to find options and opportunities to interact more positively and productively.
How do I know what I think … until I’ve said it?
EM Forster said, ‘How can I know what I think until I see what I say?’ It’s a curious psychological truth. Something in the speaking out process re-connects the subconscious with the conscious. Clients often tell me their thinking has gone in ‘loops’ with no resolution, until we were able to get those thoughts out in the space between us and examine them. Then those thoughts become productive.
I’m stuck!
If a client doesn’t know where to begin with very difficult stuff, that’s a great place for coaching to begin … The conversation usually begins with, ‘how are you feeling …?’
This way … No that way…
Clarity of direction in business or organisation is crucial, yet making time to think about it is hard. One client used me to reflect on his considerable success, what his strengths are and what his options are for the future. He knows he’s more likely to get what he wants if he is more self aware.
This always happens !@*%
Changing limiting behaviours and raising performance is liberating. A client had a big problem with anger at work. He didn’t know it was big – until his boss told him it was frightening his colleagues. In our coaching sessions he quickly addressed the issue. He is now in control, happier and much more aware of how his behaviour affects others. Life is better also, say colleagues.
You’re hired! … oh help
Coping with success, change or disappointment. Promotion, progress and ’success’ are not always pure good news. Not getting what you want doesn’t have to be bad news either. Coaching helps tease out the complicated stuff in our heads that get in the way of making the most of now.
